• Today there is the widespread notion that when people question their gender identity, they end up JOINING a crowd of people who identify a certain way. Having the social support of other people who are like you are is a good and healthy thing, but this also bolsters the notion that people are doing this in order to fit in. Which is the opposite of explaining one's identity as someone who does not.
GenderQueer is the first-person account of growing up as a gender misfit in an era long before "genderqueer" was trending. It's the story of arriving at an understanding and it sheds some light on how variant gender identities arise when they did not exist before.
• The "Q" by itself — the majority of genderqueer accounts have been written by people who first identified as same-sex attracted (gay, lesbian, or bisexual/pansexual) or else as transgender. This particular tale is from the vantage point of someone who never had dissonance about the male body in which he was born, and was not attracted to other male people sexually. Just femme.
A lot of people can check off multiple checkboxes when they identify as part of the LGBTQIA spectrum, but explaining the differences can be complicated when the examples involve more than one such identity. This is genderqueer by itself.
• I don't know about you, but I have a growing library of first-hand accounts of what it's like to be a transgender woman, what it's like to be a gay man, what it's like to be a lesbian, what it's like to be a butch lesbian, what it's like to be a transgender man, and so on.
If you think it is important for us to be visible, if you think public education that explains our identities is necessary and relevant, you should support writers who tell these tales and provide these examples.
Reviews and purchase info here: https://www.genderkitten.com
My second book, That Guy in Our Women's Studies Class, will be coming out late this year and continues the story. This time, the tale will be about joining: in the early 1980s, when there was no LGBT community in today's sense, I set out to join the people who were most visible in dealing with gender — the feminists. Specifically, I decided to enroll in women's studies where our classes would involve discussing these issues and raising these questions.
This was before the arrival of gender studies, and as a male-presenting individual I was perceived as a guy, and hence an outsider coming to the table. To be seen as male was to be perceived as benefitting from patriarchy, and not seen as someone with my own legitimate issues with the workings of gender.
It's a nuanced exploration of privilege and marginalization and intersectionality.
You're secluded in quarantine, and all the performances and events have been cancelled, so it's a good time to read a book!
My book, GenderQueer: A Story From a Different Closet, has been published by Sunstone Press. It is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble in paperback and ebook, and as ebook only from Apple, Kobo, and directly from Sunstone Press themselves.
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